Don't Let This Be You

The popular perception is that you need to be aggressive in order to protect yourself in your divorce. However, in a contentious divorce, there is a greater risk of the negotiations spiraling out of control and leaving both parties in a worse position than they should be.

Everyone knows stories about friends who were involved in long contentious divorces where no one won, except for the two lawyers. Divorces where revenge trumped common sense. Divorces where a house went into foreclosure because both parties refused to pay the mortgage, where one party drained and spent their entire pension to prevent their spouse from getting a dime.

So you need to look at your divorce and ask, “Do I want this to be me?”

Do you want to completely destroy your relationship with your former spouse so you are unable to communicate and make decisions regarding your children? Do you want a Judge to make decisions regarding your children and your property? Do you want to complete the divorce proceedings without obtaining closure?

When people use spite and revenge to dictate their divorce strategy, they fail to properly consider their own needs post-divorce. They also fail to plan ahead and, most importantly, they fail to get closure during the divorce process. They continue to fight with their former spouse, trying to obtain property and the closure they should have received before the Judgment was entered and the divorce became final.

Completing your divorce amicably allows you to do so with integrity and allows you to move on with your life once your divorce is completed. By resolving the disputes amicably, you can be assured of a fair settlement that greatly reduces the likelihood that you will return to court with additional problems. It allows you to make decisions regarding your divorce, increasing the likelihood that your goals will be met and you will end up in the best possible position when the divorce is completed.

At Pitler Family Law, our Michigan divorce attorneys handle family law, divorce, child custody, parenting time, visitation, child support and alimony matters throughout the Detroit metropolitan area, including Farmington Hills, Livonia, Bloomfield Hills, Troy, Royal Oak, Birmingham, Rochester, Mt. Clemens, Dearborn, Warren, Southfield, and all of Oakland County, Wayne County, Livingston County, and Macomb County.